I belive that things that you don´t deal with that really needs dealing with get stored in your body.
If you don´t get the closure that you need and deserve you can cary the fear and pain forever in your body in the form of a tight muscle or a sore shoulder.
Maybe you have learned to shut up your mind and quiet your thoughts and push away what ever it might be from your memory...
But as they say in the movies :
You can run,
but you can´t hide.
I had this painful experience in january that just kept on expanding and getting built on for what seemed like forever -
and more or less from the exact same moment I´ve been having trouble with my calfmuscles.
Yesterday I got this really painful "massage" from a colleague of mine, and suddenly as she was "abusing" my calfmuscles I got the feeling of surrender. It was time to let go.
All evening after the treatment I felt emotionally drained and when I woke up this morning I felt sad.
But it is a sadness filled with freedom!